24 Hour Crisis Line: (919) 403-6562 or Email the Crisis Line
Resources for Victims
Safety Plan
Stalking Information
What to do if you are raped/sexually assaulted
Tips for parents/friends of a battered woman
Information on Teen Dating Violence
White Ribbon Campaign
What men can do
Additional Agencies/Resources in the Triangle
DCRC Support Groups
Links
http://www.probono.net/dv/
National Domestic Violence Pro Bono (free legal help) Directory
Safety Plan :
Safety Plan.pdf
Plan de Seguridad.pdf
Stalking Information
(Taken from http://stalkingawarenessmonth.org)
Stalking Myths and Realities
Are You Being Stalked
(English)
(Spanish)
10 Things you Need to Know About Stalking
(English)
(Spanish)
Stalking Fact Sheet
(English)
(Spanish)
What to do if you are Raped/Sexually Assaulted
IF YOU ARE IN IMMEDIATE DANGER, CALL 911.
Go to a safe place. This is not the time to be alone. At the very least you need emotional support. If there is no one to talk to, then call someone you can talk to, no matter how late it is. (See places where you can get help.)
Get medical attention. As soon as possible, go to the emergency department of the nearest hospital to be examined and treated for any injuries, sexually transmitted infections, and emergency contraception. If you decide to report to the police, physical specimens collected soon after the rape will be valuable evidence.
DO NOT SHOWER OR WASH YOURSELF
DO NOT EAT, DRINK, OR SMOKE
TRY NOT TO USE THE BATHROOM
If you decide to report, good "evidence collection" is key to prosecuting. If you do not want to file charges, you may still go to the Emergency Room and receive medical care. If you do not know whether you want to file charges yet, you may go as if you were filing a report. You can talk to the police and give all the information you have about the assault, but withhold your name and other personal information. This “Blind Report” will not be investigated until you call the police to let them know you wish to continue the case.
Make space for healing. You have been through a trauma and need to make space for your own emotional, physical, psychological and spiritual healing. You may be overwhelmed by many different emotions - fear, grief, guilt, shame, rage. It is important to seek support. There are many different options, such as talking with an advocate at Durham Crisis Response Center, joining a survivors group (offered at Durham Crisis Response Center) or talking with a friend. People who receive counseling tend to recover from their experiences faster and with fewer lasting effects than those who get no help. Recovery from rape doesn't mean that it's as if the rape never happened. Recovery does mean that, over time, the survivor is not thinking about the rape-their emotions are not dominated by it. The survivor is able to envision a future, to set goals and work to achieve them. Their life moves forward.
Do not blame yourself. Be compassionate with yourself. You need to be assured that you are not to blame for the rape. Regardless of what you were doing, who you were with, where you were, or what time it was, there is never an excuse to accept rape as a consequence. Even if you believe you were naïve, not cautious, or even foolish, it is not your fault. Your behavior did not cause the rape; the rapist caused the rape. What ever you did to survive was exactly the right thing to do.
Tips for Parents and/or Friends of a Battered Woman
1. Focus on her, her safety, and your love for her.
2. Don’t agree to keep confidence when your child’s safety is at stake. Sometimes the way you learn of the abuse is through a third person that is sworn to secrecy.
3. Tell her what information you have, that you believe she is being hurt and controlled.
4. Let her know you love her and that her safety is of the utmost importance to you.
5. Tell her there are ways to keep safe, and together you and she will get the help that she needs. It is important for her to understand that she has options.
6. Refer her to the Durham Crisis Response Center or another domestic violence agency in her community.
7. Learn about domestic violence, so you will understand as much as possible about what she is experiencing and why she is confused.
8. If she is eighteen or older, let her know that you know she is an adult and she is the one who must decide on what action to take and when. When she is ready, you will be there to help her stop the violence.
9. Be supportive of her, but not of the abusive relationship. Do not loan money, which will enable her to stay in the violent situation, even for children’s clothes, doctor bills, etc. Let her know you will support her as much as you can when she is not in a violent relationship.
Information on Teen Dating Violence
http://www.seeitandstopit.org
http://www.cdc.gov/ncipc/dvp/DatingViolence.htm
http://www.loveisrespect.org
http://teendvmonth.org
The White Ribbon Campaign (http://www.whiteribbon.ca)
What is the White Ribbon Campaign?
The White Ribbon Campaign is the largest effort in the world of men working to end men's violence against women.
Wearing a white ribbon is a personal pledge never to commit, condone nor remain silent about violence against women.
How did the White Ribbon Campaign get started?
In 1991, a handful of men in Canada decided we had a responsibility to urge men to speak out against violence against women. We decided that wearing a white ribbon would be a symbol of men's opposition to men's violence against women.
What are the goals of the White Ribbon Campaign, and how do your volunteers accomplish these objectives?
We are an educational organization to encourage reflection and discussion that leads to personal and collective action among men.
Throughout the year, we encourage men:
*To do educational work in schools, workplaces, and communities
*To support local women's groups
What happens during White Ribbon Days?
We urge men and boys to wear a ribbon, including one on their coat so the ribbon will be visible while they're outdoors. We encourage men to talk in schools, workplaces, and places of worship about the problem of violence.
Does this mean that you think men are bad?
We don't think that men are naturally violent and we don't think that men are bad. The majority of men are not violent. Researchers have discovered many past cultures with little or no violence.
At the same time we do think that many men have learned to express their anger or insecurity through violence. Many men have come to believe that violence against a woman, child or another man is an acceptable way to control another person.
The problem does not stop with physical violence. There are forms of emotional violence--from sexist joking, to sexual harassment at work, to other domineering forms of behavior. By remaining silent about these things, we allow other men to poison our working and learning environments.
The good news is that more and more men want to make a difference. Caring men are tired of the sexism that hurts the women around them.
We're not male bashers because we're men, working with men, who care about what happens in the lives of men.
10 Things Men Can Do
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Additional Domestic Violence/Sexual Assault Agencies and Shelters in the Triangle
National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233
Durham County
Center for Child and Family Health
Phone: 919-419-3474
Address: 411 W. Chapel Hill St. Suite 908 Durham, NC 27701
Services: Designed to assist and support child sexual assault survivors and their families. Can perform evidence collection kit on children thus avoiding emergency room visits. Also houses a legal clinic that can help clients who have legal questions about child sexual assault.
Spanish: yes
Sexual Assault Support Services , Duke University
Phone: 919-684-3897, 919-681-6882 (After-hours crisis)
Address: Women's Center, Box 90920, 126 FUW FED Building, Durham, NC 27708
Services: Will provide case management services and can help with medical bills. Provides advocacy support and assistance with getting medical care and judicial relief. 24 hour crisis line.
**For Duke University Students Only**
Orange County
Orange County Rape Crisis Center
Phone: 919-967-7273, 1-866-WE-LISTEN (1-866-935-4783), 919-968-9647 (Office and support group information), 919-643-0722 (Hillsborough office)
Address: 825 A Estes Drive, Chapel Hill, NC 27514/ 114 West Corbin Street, Hillsborough, NC
Services: Proveds 24 hour crisis intervention and support for men and women in Orange County by trained volunteer Companions or Child Advocates. Offers support groups. Makes available medical and legal information, referrals, and community-education and awareness programs. Pediatric clinic volunteers offer support services for victims and their families as the vicitm is being examined for evidence of sexual violence at UNC Child Medical Evaluation Clinic. Uses male and female volunteers.
Spanish: Volunteer available within 24 hrs.
Family Violence Center of Orange County
Office Phone: 919-929-3872
Crisis Phone: 919-929-9925 (Toll Free: 1-866-929-7122)
Email: fvpced@yahoo.com
Services: Services clients of domestic violence in Orange County. This agency does not have a shelter, but they offer support groups, legal advocacy, crisis line, an dinformation and referrals.
Spanish: yes
Wake County
INTERACT
Office Phone: 919-828-7501
Domestic Violence Crisis Phone: 919-828-7740
Sexual Assault Crisis Phone: 919-828-3005
Address: 612 Wade Ave, Raleigh, NC 27605
Services: Call shelter for placement. Offer counseling services in office free of charge. Clients must call crisis line for shelter request. If the woman is from another county, must call between 9am and 5pm for interview. Age limit on male children (16 years) depends on the age range of current residents.
Spanish: yes
Chatham County
Family Violence and Rape Crisis Services in Chatham
Office Phone: 919-542-5445
Crisis Phone: 919-545-0224
Spanish DV Victims Services: 919-742-7320
Address: PO Box 1105, Pittsboro, NC 27312
Services: Will place women between 8am and 10pm. After 10pm they will try to work out a hotel placement. The sheler is located in a very rural area. Not useful to women unless they have transportation. 13 beds, can take women from other counties, but the length of stay is not guaranteed. Length of stay is 6 weeks for out of county clients, and 3 months for in county clients. No boys over the age of 12.
Spanish: Yes
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